For my 40th birthday my best friend from college gave me a beautiful bracelet from Peridot, a company with products I'm now always coveting! There is sanscrit on one side and English on the other. The charm she chose for me reads "Love and Compassion." I'm reminded of them hourly, since I always wear the bracelet, but it took me months before the meaning really set in. With everything going on in my life these days, the insecurity, the confusion, the pain, the mid-life identity crisis, I can't help but reflect on these words. The most important values in my life are Love and Compassion. I suppose you could add Kindness, but there wasn't room on the charm! I certainly do not always reflect Love and Compassion, especially in my most confused and self-pitying moments, full of jealousy and insecurity, but these are the values I prize more highly than anything else in the world. They are what I want my life to reflect. They are what I [should] seek in every friendship I have. They are what I should share with my children, my family, my community.
When I approached my husband with my self-discovery, describing to him why these words meant so much to me and how they are the most important values in the world to me, he replied with a characteristically brief reply: "Of course they are. Don't you know that's why I married you?"
So thank you so much, dearest Alissa, for the constant reminder of what I hope is my purpose on this Earth! Thanks for grounding me through the vehicle of a hanging charm. Thanks for seeing in me what I often bury out of sight.
And before anyone reading this thinks I'm setting up shop on Maudlin Lane, I'm off to spread some Love and Compassion around this house. Because I'm telling you, every time I see these crazy piles of paper I can't seem to control, I want to go postal on the lot and chuck it out the window, scattering pages all over Maudlin Lane.